How to Move On (Para sa mga hirap makalimot)

August 9 2013 Friday

10:13am

I know its hard for majority of us to forget someone who gave us memories to cherish, those tight long hugs and encouragements. But at some point in time, he/she decided to end it all up.. He/she thinks that its for the best even if you don't want to break up with him/her (when one stops to make the effort, the relationship would surely die down). It feels like the whole world turned against you, it like a nightmare that suddenly came into reality.. You started to shun others of your attention, you feel like you're just a trash that nobody likes. But what if i tell you (not just me but others as well) that someone out there cares for you? someone out there doesn't want you to suffer, that someone out there wants to see you smile again and he/she can love you better than the last one but you keep on ignoring him/her and even your friends. Its not healthy for you to stay on that state, you need to move on but you'll ask "How?" and follow up with phrases like "he's the one" etc etc.. So lets get straight to the point..

How to Move On:

Let me first say that i'm no expert on this trivial point in everyone's life..no one is. This is just to give you an idea on how to move on and enjoy life more. I will be using Filipino in this one (easier for me to explain using my mother tongue)

Cry it all out 

Iiyak mo yan hanggang gaano mo katagal gusto. Its a way for you to ease the PAIN. Mapapansin mo nalang isang araw hindi ka na iiyak pa for the same reason.

Talk to your FRIENDS

Spend time talking to your friends. Wag kang magkulong sa kwarto mo or sa mundong nasa isip mo. Yung mga kaibigan mo ang magiging sandalan mo sa mga panahon na ito at sila rin ang makakaintindi sa pinagdaraanan mo. Ilabas mo lahat ng sakit na nararamdaman mo sa pagkausap sa iyong mga kaibigan.

Wag maging ASSUMING

eto yung nangyayari sa mga bagong break up lang. Iniisip mo na babalik pa sya (same lang kahit ikaw yung nakipagbreak, aminin mo man o hindi, may time na iniisip mong sana bumalik pa sya) pero itigil mo na ang ganyang pag-iisip. Kung totoong mahal ka nya, hindi ka nya iiwan, gagawa sya ng effort para magkita kayo sa mga planado nyong pagkikita at hindi puro pangako nalang na laging napapako. Stop Assuming mga boyet at girlie.

ERASE YOUR BITTERNESS

Mahirap magpatawad. Aminin natin yan lalo na kung niloko tayo ng taong iyon. Kung ikaw naman ang nakipagbreak, same thing lang, wag kang magpakabitter kapag may bago na sya. Galaw galaw din. Kailangan mong alisin yung galit at lungkot sa puso mo. Isipin mo na parang sinisigaw na sayo ni God na "HINDI SIYA ANG PARA SAYO ANAK." and everything happens for a reason (kahit ikaw pa ang nakipagbreak still it happens for a reason) .

ACCEPT

Tanggapin mo na wala na kayo, tanggapin mo na nakipagbreak ka na. Balang araw magpapasalamat ka dahil iniwan ka nya (o iniwan mo sya). Marami pang pagkakataon na makakita ka ng magmamahal sayo.

GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE

Hindi ko sinasabing maghanap kayo ng rebound boyet / girlie. The point is "ilaan mo yung time mo sa ibang mga bagay, kapag may pumasok na tao sa buhay mo na naglakas loob magtapat sayo, give him/her a chance to love you. PERO wag na wag na wag mo syang lolokohin dahil ganun din ang naramdaman mo, mas magandang ireciprocate mo yung feelings of love towards the guy/girl, makakatulong na sa pag mmove on mo, sasaya pa kayo. Wag mo rin syang paasahin, if nagtapat sya sayo and you still can't commit then say it straight. Kapag sinabi nyang maghihintay sya, let him pero pag wala talaga, sabihin mo. Mahirap maghintay at umasa.

BE WISE 

Hindi masamang magmahal ng WAGAS pero magtira ka parin para sa sarili mo, don't give 100%. Kung sa tingin mo naman eh mas magiging okay ka sa bagong naghihintay sayo, let the feelings evolve, develop or mature kung ano man ang tamang term. 

Hindi madali, aaminin ko rin yan. Pero moving on is a process, take it slowly, step by step and love again. Aaminin ko na matagal din ako bago nakamove on. Matagal na process pero kakayanin dapat.