Bakit Hindi Ka Crush Ng Crush Mo?
Ramon Bautista
One of the most entertaining books i have read (actually i don't read that often but yeah, i've read quite alot of books since highschool days). It is a compilation of questions asked by different people with love problems to Mr. Ramon Bautista on his formspring account, http://www.formspring.me/ramonbautista.
About the author: Ramon Bautista is a self-proclaimed internet action star and next boyfriend material. He took up Film and Audio-Visual Communication in the University of the Philippines as his undergraduate course and pursued graduate studies in the same field. He is a university teacher, radio DJ, TV show host, film producer and commercial model. (Source: pg136, Bakit Hindi Ka Crush ng Crush Mo?)
As i have said on the first part of this blog, its a compilation of different questions which varies from school problems to love problems from different individuals who idolizes Mr. RB. HHoe provides straightforward answers, suggestions and insights in a somewhat solid, sometimes in a derogatory manner but in a way that he wants to open the eyes and minds of the people who is in that situation who is afraid of the facts in front of them.
The book has ten (10) chapters all in all:
- Chapter 1 - Ayaw nya sa'yo
- Chapter 2 - Moving on techniques
- Chapter 3 - Long Distance Relationship
- Chapter 4 - Paano sasabihin kay mommy na bagsak ka
- Chapter 5 - Paano Lumandi
- Chapter 6 - No Boyfriend Since Birth
- Chapter 7 - Ba't di ka crush ng crush mo?
- Chapter 8 - Premarital Sex
- Chapter 9 - Paano ganahan magstudy
- Chapter 10 - How to live an awesome life
There's a wide range of topics and questions in each of the chapters and you will learn things that you have not realized before and at the same time, you'll enjoy reading each and every page of this book. Its an eye opener for all teens up to older years.
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Personally, I have learned so much reading this book. I've learned how to deal with the things that still bothers me, though i lack the ability to do most of it. Fun book to read actually. There is this chapter wherein he was criticized by a fellow poster that he indirectly promote discrimination and cyber bullying by the way he answers every question asked by formspring members.
Post: I was a fan until i read your responses to your followers. I just want you to know that you "indirectly" promote discrimination and "cyber-bullying" with your responses. Please answer constructively. It won't make you less of a person.
RB: Edi i-unfan mo sarili mo
You can't stop cyber bullying. What I promote is strength of character. If they bully you, I encourage you to stand up and say "so what?! I'm enjoying my life, walang basagan ng trip." It's a mean world out there. The internet's a similar world where they weed out the emotional and mental weaklings like you. If you can;t handle it, stay out of my internet love triangle and just follow Paolo Coelho and other positivity-charged teen soul chicken soup websites. Or better yet, go offline and fund sanctuary in the comfort and safety of your parents.
And yes, right now I'm discriminating and cyber bullying you. Now give me that "so what?! I'm enjoying my life, walang basagan ng trip" attitude. It won't make you less of a person.
Source: pg113, Bakit Di Ka Crush Ng Crush Mo
He answers that way to some post, some he answers in a funny way but there are times that he's having a hard time answering and asks for help from fellow formspring members. He has a pretty positive outlook in life.
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In love, problems will rise from time to time, its part of the challenge on being in a relationship with someone. But even singles fight their own problems of looking for the right one or the pwede na yan for some. Its hard, really hard.
In a guy's perspective, we do the courting, the effort, the waiting and the sacrifice just to have the chance to hear that girl's sweet "Yes". But many of us reached the end line with a "no". Its pretty hard to accept I will vouch for that. Doing those things out of love, the effort done, sacrifices, and the waiting game for how long? weeks? months? even a year? then its just a "no"? Guys know that its part of the cycle, the taking of risks and stuff. Why do the other party let them do those things for a long time then just say no?. Then girls will complain that they can't find the right guy for them. Look at the "friendzoned" guys and you will find the right one. We won't show that its not okay for us to hear that "no" and the reasons, We won't say that we can't accept that decision. We will just go with what the other wants us to be for them, whether it will do good for us or not. Things that we did in the past for those ladies will be remembered in a series of flashbacks and its just too hard to go after that. I don't speak for all the males of the world like an Alpha Male. I am just stating the things other guys have went through and experienced (yeah, such as myself).
Move on, its all about moving on until we are too far to see where we came from..
Easy? tell that to a guy who did everything for someone, wasted time and effort just to be with that someone. hell yeah easy.. pfft. hahaha
"There is more to life than love"
Ramon Bautista
1:02am 11/03/12 Sunday
